A sudden bringing-into-awareness, and perhaps into words, of some of what has been going on for me in the past couple of years...
in a time of political chaos and anxiety, where one thinks of the 1930s: including the bit where intellectuals were attacked for not being militant enough, not standing up to aggressively dark forces. Attacks that appeared again, in heightened post-Confucian forms, in Mao's revolutions...
Across a time where I have expanded and perhaps more broadly experienced certain spaces of my existence, my psyche: where illness and health are seen to be two sides of the same thing, as are living and dying, being and not-being, creating and not creating, closeness to others and distance from them.
Where memories of people – Terry W. seriously explaining something from across a table in Los Angeles, Mark R. still alive and grinning with glee in the living room of a Victorian in the Castro, my sister talking to me in the garden of a London museum – Norma walking energetically in front me in the park a couple of weeks ago, Ma Jaya holding her crowded court in the back room of John's house in West Hollywood, Bill G. looking up at me from the piano in a small club in San Francisco with his kind, ironic eyes –
where they all fuse, in some way, while still remaining distinct...
Strangest of all – and it is strange because I have spent my whole life judging what I am doing: and so there was not enough practicing, not enough writing, not enough work – and later not enough joy, too much being alone yet still not creating, much – that space of time that seems from one angle to be either wasted or celebrated, or – but as we know those judgments merely fold back onto themselves, endlessly burrowing into tunnels of never-enough, so there is no point in extending the discussion of them –
strangest of all is the sense that, looking back, and across, from this late point in life, near my sixtieth birthday – that if I had done everything completely differently: performed, written – stayed with people I loved, landed luckily in some happier houses in warmer climates, smiled across the guests at a dinner table at a man I loved who was sitting at the other end –
that it would have actually been no different: that this awareness of time, of space, of what is and has been, would not actually have an altered nature or substance, merely because it focused on different events, different people. Different raw materials.
That our lives are all, really, very similar cloths, even if made from different threads....
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Some visions go to this place, beyond the point of seeing life whole: where the contingency of what actually happened becomes self-evident – the later parts of Nabokov's Ada, Kate Bush's Coral Room – Iain Banks' Excession, Mosley's Hopeful Monsters, Jane Siberry's Oh My My, Malick's Tree of Life – even Spielberg & Kubrick's A.I.: the Buddha would have been pleased.
Where the fights and attempts to win and lose have not merely been resolved in one way or another, leading to a triumphant or tragic ending – but where we have seen that they could have been not only different, but even more: they could have been anything: that we could have reached this clarity from any set of points....